the negatives about relationships

what is complicated about the fact of relationships? i think these make the top 5 of complications that spark within relationships.

1) expectations - either one or the other, or even both.. expect a lot. and when these expectations aren't fulfilled, they ignite arguments and disagreements. some expect those who are their significant other to compare just like the person they've been with before. others expect the mere idea of sex. while others expect 24/7 romancticism.

2) growing up - especially college.. i think growing up will tell if a relationship can really endure all things or if it screws up. college, in the first place, usually affects a person on having more independence and being single without commitments. or maybe the contrary happens.. it's just all unpredictable, yaknow?

3) the past - ohhhh screw the past. especially with a detailed one, it's just something that will always be there. it's been dealt with, it's done with, but it's something that will always be part of your life and at times, it's what people dwell on. but, that's just the thing.. we've gotta admit our mistakes and move on. make every second count.. LIVE IT UP; because each second that ticks by is considered the past.

4) the stages of the whole "relationship" process - ugh, we all know that puppylove stage. calling/texting 24/7, staring games, the first kisses extra sweet... and that's what we (esp as girls) just want all the time, despite it being a 9-day relationship to a 2 year 7 month relationship. but, it just isn't like that. getting through the process, you discover one another's flaws and eventually you realize.. the person you are infatuated with has flaws, just like any other human on earth... but hopefully in most relationships, there's something within a person (not shallow) that attracts you. and that's how it endures.

5) just the fact that we're humans - we were made by God to discover him, his love, and to enjoy the life He has given us. He didn't put us here on earth for nothing. but i think, by experiencing struggles, hardships, complications.. we truly appreciate the gifts God has blessed us with. our loved ones, talents, internet, Olive Garden.. haha. that is why.. despite being a faithful Catholic, i believe that peace on earth is nearly an impossible strain. i believe this because if there was peace on earth, everything would be good.. ALL THE TIME. and so we would expect good all time.. and eventually we would take it for granted. as humans, we make mistakes, but we learn.. we can never be perfect.. and the idea of "peace on earth" is a perfected idea. humans make mistakes, so we shouldn't expect perfection. but that's the thing. we learn from each other; we grow old with each other; we are each other; the world is technically your family and it's your job to get to know every one you can.

so, with this made up. i've concluded that love is fragile. don't take it for granted or else it might get old, wither, and die. don't use it too much or else you'll take it for granted; just save it for the meaningful, special moments. don't play with it too much; or the cracks will finally come together and break. and most of all, don't not use it. love is a special gift, one of the best feelings you'll ever experience in the world. if love isn't used within one's lifetime.. then you're missing quite a big opportunity it's the cause of ALL emotions. it's the source of happiness, sadness... just everything. but to be honest, the end outcome to love is 99.9999% of the time happiness. and when you're in your final moments of life and you have loved a person, then in my opinion, you have the right to die a happy person.

amen.

** this has nothing to do with my mood. i felt kinda contemplative for a moment though, so i decided to write this (:

*** i'll post the postives about relationships just to make it seem like i'm not that cynical, yaknow yaknow? haha.