12/4/08

Infatuation vs. Love

I've gone through this topic before.. Discussed it with past eye-candies.. Thought about it numerous times.. But it's this week I've found out the difference between love and infatuation in my religion class. Infatuation (as defined in the book) includes sexual activity and attraction - also know as being "in love". Whereas love (as defined in the book) includes commitment, unconditional acceptance, deep respect, and trust. With infatuation as the dominant role in a relationship, exploitation (lack of respect and use of selfishness) happens. With friendship, and willingness to get to know a person.. love is possible.
And with these definitions in mind... I realize how this applies to my life. Now that I think about it.. Is my relationship with Chris an infatuation or a deep friendship that can and is currently blossoming into love? I was puzzled... Because I know we talk and hang.. but is there more to our love than just that kiss.. the passionate wanting (not like that..)? And this is when I've decided.. that our relationship has more than that. Just the fact that we met in Church, is a reason I should be happy. That the one thing.. one of the most important things we have in common is our faith in God. Does he only love me just because of those kisses? Those warm bear hugs? Those lovey-dovey shit words? Is that all? Or is each "I love you" the real deal? Is the promises of always being there.. of never cheating.. are those true? How will I know? But, this is the thing.. That despite those passionate kisses, those deep stares, the want I have inside me.. All I really want is a gentleman. One that doesn't have to have sex.. That treats a woman as superior as a man.. because who can actually prove that men are better than women? Chris is my babe. And maybe we've gone through stages of infatuation.. Doesn't every teen? But I've gotta remind myself every so often.. The reason for this relationship. The reason we're together. The reason we were made to be together at this very moment.

And that reason.. is love.

Oh.. and what a mofackin flirt.

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